Sunday, January 22, 2012

You wear white, and I'll wear out the words, "I love you," and "you're beautiful"

Very recently, I've had several people talk about how worthless marriage is, how it's pointless, and how "love" is just a way for women to express their feelings.


As I am 99.7% sure that this is my future vocation (regardless of that actually), I am obviously offended. This is a beautiful goal that I am working towards someday in the most likely very distant future. It. Is. Beautiful. And important.

It frustrates me that people look at the divorce rate alone when they decide how to value marriage. Marriage is beautiful! It's just that more often than not, couples go into it because they are infatuated with each other and marriage is the logical next step. Couples are so high on each other that they overlook that marriage is a commitment, that love is a verb and not just a fuzzy feeling.

Dear confused society: the fuzzy feelings are nice, yeah, but fuzzy feelings can't sustain a person. They won't be there every moment of every day. And you know what? That's ok. We're all broken fallen human beings. We frustrate each other. We fail each other. We get into arguments. Does that mean we love each other any less? Why do some married couples see a fight as the end of the world? Have they never gotten into with friends? With family? Just as maintaining these relationships in a healthy manner requires WORK and sacrifice, so does marriage! Tada!

The biggest reason for the absurd divorce rate: people have no idea what they're getting into when they get married. It's a fact. They jump into the fuzzy feelings... and it ends up they don't even know their spouse to begin with. And that's really sad. I know that we're all just searching to be loved. Love is at the very core of who we are. We ache to know that we're worth something and have that validated in the eyes of another.

Dear broken world: you are so hard to live in sometimes. Love is not always evident. We need more of it. More of the verb. Less of the misconception that pleasant feelings are enough to sustain us, no matter how lovely they may seem.

...random marriage rant over... I am very tired.


  1. It is so sad that people don't value marriage more! I agree that that the reason that they don't is because they don't know what it is; it's not "happily ever after", and it's not going to fix what's wrong in your life. It is living out the good, the bad, and the ugly together.

  2. Hope you don't mind I stopped by. I agree 100% I haven't had the opportunity to find my other half yet and it makes me sad to see so much divorce among family and friends.